How did you choose the title?
Victory Dancing refers to the spontaneous “boogie” of celebration that we’ve all seen—and hopefully even experienced—in various aspects of life. Think of the athlete who scores the winning point in a major competition, the game show contestant who wins a grand prize, or the friend who aces a tough exam at school. Victory Dancing for Teens is about conquering fear and self-doubt and replacing it with total exhilaration and positive energy. I do this with a technique I call the Victory Dance, which incorporates music, color, visualization, and positive affirmation.
When you learn the technique and apply it to your life, you can overcome self-sabotage, think better on your feet, and function at your peak at home, at school, at work, and in life. When you make the most of every opportunity, it’s like being on top of the world, in control and in charge. This is what I call being in the “winner’s circle.” Young adults are in a position where they can use some “smooth moves” to help them achieve more control over the variables in their lives.
Why did you write this book?
I have been using the Victory Dance technique I teach in the book for years. It has benefited me personally and professionally, and I wanted to share it with the world. I first wrote another book, The Victory Dance: Placing Yourself in the Winner’s Circle, but it contained examples and stories written specifically for adults. I then decided to reach out to young adults with a more hip, urban version of the book. My goal is to help teenagers take control of their lives and be the best they can be, and the information I present will help them develop good habits that prove beneficial at school, at home and at work.
As a former professional tennis player, I’ve learned a lot about how to stay focused, how to shift into neutral to perform at an optimum level, and how to create a workable action plan for goals and success. I put all of this and more into the book.
Victory Dancing for Teens goes far deeper than traditional “positive thinking.” Ivan Pavlov, a Russian physiologist who won the Nobel Prize for his research on digestive processes, proved through his work with dogs that animals have a “conditioned reflex.” Humans have the same conditioned reflex. We all react to things both consciously and unconsciously. My technique rewires the way you react to people and situations so that you can develop a positive conditioned reflex. I used it to beat my fear of flying on airplanes, for example. Instead of projecting my past experience into the present one, I have used the Victory Dance technique to plug in a new, more favorable way of thinking and being when I fly on airplanes.
Why is visualization so important for success?
Visualization is a powerful tool for changing old beliefs and negative thought patterns. Don’t we always need to see something, even if it’s only in our minds, before we can believe it? In fact, athletes, inventors, generals, and countless other successful people have benefited from visualization throughout the centuries. We’re just more aware of the technique now.
Visualization also can help you translate your vision into reality. It will help you bury your past failures and program yourself for success. Each one of us has thoughts, actions, and failures from the past that don’t serve us, but we continue to hold on to them. This negative programming only perpetuates itself and hinders our performance until we change it.
If you use your imagination (visualization) positively, in accordance with the color and music cues I suggest in Victory Dancing for Teens, you will be well on your way to reprogramming yourself to a new and better you.
What is the best advice you can give others about writing or publishing?
It is so important to have faith in yourself. This faith is what allows you to see yourself as a success—whatever that means to you—regardless of setbacks. A picture of yourself achieving gives you the motivation to set goals, muster the necessary discipline, and do the work needed to achieve that success.
Faith in yourself shapes your reality. Remember, the future is not determined by your past or by the conditions in front of you at any given moment. Faith in yourself means staying focused even when things go badly. I received several rejection letters with all three of my new books. I finally decided to self-publish them. Then, at the last minute, a publisher came to me wanting to print them. It’s funny how things happen! Yet, even if the publisher hadn’t come to me, I still would have moved forward with my books, because I had faith in myself and the content I put in the books. The bottom line is, don’t let people or conditions stand in your way. Have faith in yourself, and always follow your heart. If you hang tough and wait things out, the storms of life will eventually pass, conditions will change, and the sun will shine again.
Where can people learn more about you and your book?
You can learn more at NancyPristine.com. Every Monday morning, I post “Words for the Wise,” which includes a thought for the week that you can implement in your daily life to achieve happiness and success. I am also the author of The Zen Game: How to Win at the Game of Life Without Selling Your Soul and The Victory Dance: Placing Yourself in the Winner’s Circle in Sports and in Life (for adults). You can see a quick video about my new books at Amazon.com or NancyPristine.com.