My book, The Ones That Got Away: A Dating Memoir, is a humorously elaborate answer to the question, “Why are you still single?” Think Bridget Jones Diary meets Sex and the City. My story spans over 25 years of dating and is told in a candid girlfriend-to-girlfriend manner. One reviewer wrote, “Sometimes hilarious, always easy to identify with.”
Tell us something about yourself.
I’m a Northeast transplant currently living in Scottsdale, AZ. While growing up I was told I had an aptitude for writing, but I didn’t pursue it. I was also applauded for my artistic ability, but I didn’t pursue that either. I actually wound up in a facet of construction – if you can believe it. There are times when I think back to my school days – Career Day, in particular, when I announced that I was going to be a florist – and wonder what went wrong. That’s okay, though; if everyone did what they said on Career Day the world would be overrun with veterinarians.
What inspired you to write this book?
The inspiration for The Ones That Got Away actually came from a short story I had written in the 5th Grade. I mention this in Chapter One. As I recalled that story, a statement just came to me and I thought, “That would make a great opening sentence for my life story.” Then the title came to mind, after which, like dominos (dominos of bad boyfirends), the whole story fell out of my head. I began to write immediately.
How did you publish this book? Why did you decide to self-publish?
When I began writing my book, I didn’t really do it for any reason in particular, it was just coming out of me and so I did it. Once I had it complete, though, I decided to formally finish it by making it a bona fide book. I took a class with author Tom Bird (www.Tombird.com) to find out the differences between conventional publishing and self publishing. It seemed for an unknown author, dollar for dollar, my expenses would be about the same either way, but with self publishing I maintained control over the story I was telling and it would become a book in a fraction of the time it would take otherwise. The key to self publishing is getting connected with the right people – because you don’t actually do it yourself. In the world of publishing, even self publishing, writing is actually the easy part – there is so much more that goes into making a story a book and I simply could not have done it without help. (www.PODbookdesigns.com) First off, I write in pencil (getting my story into a Word doc is about as high-tech as I get). I’m not computer savvy – I cannot text, I’m not on Facebook and I do not Tweet – all that technical stuff is just geek – oops, that must have been a slip – Greek to me.
What do you believe is the hardest part of writing?
The hardest part of writing for me is finding unfettered downtime in which to actually do it. Writing is creative and you can’t just squeeze it in, under pressure, here and there. You need to have the right amount of time for it and a clear mind so that things can flow. The exception that proves the rule, of course, are those tiny bursts of creativity that usually happen in the shower – why in the shower, I don’t know, clear mind probably – when an idea, phrase or even just one particular word will pop into your head. Not willing to risk forgetting, in those instances, I’d tip-toe out of the shower soaking wet, to record whatever little nugget came to mind on a Post-It note. Ah, the Post-It note. I may be able to live without a man in my life, but I could not live without Post-It notes.
What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
After OTGA was published I was surprised by how many people shared with me that they always wanted to write a book. I told them all the same thing: WRITE. I think it was Aristotle who claimed that one’s life would not be complete if not for accomplishing three things: build a house (many won’t do this), raise a child (many will do this), and write a book (many, apparently, want to do this). Here’s the thing. All of us have a story to tell – it may not always be the most interesting story, but it’s ours and if it can be told in an entertaining fashion, then why not? You can’t worry about initially writing anything good, coherent or cohesive – just write! It’s much easier to fix something than to create something.
Where can readers learn more about you and your book?
Buy the book from Amazon