Finalist, 2010 USA Books News
Award Winner, 2010 PTPA Media™ Seal
20+ million step and blended families exist in the U.S. and
2,100 new ones form every day.
For most couples, trying to build a successful remarriage can mysteriously bring out their deepest personal fears, longings, and hopes. The key to not only survival, but living this journey well, begins with having the right tools; it is not about blame or badness. With the right preparation and resources, a multi-home step or blended family can be a stable and solid foundation for co-parents and children.
The Secrets to Stepfamily Success offers tools that can significantly lower the alarming rate of step and blended family divorce, helping families evolve into highly nurturing, reliable refuges of warmth, safety, encouragement, strength, caring, and joy. Step and blended families have a unique dynamic with which couples must cope, along with all the other normal challenges of life and marriage. See how these families differ in up to sixty structural and dynamic ways from typical intact biological families–including consisting of two co-parenting homes and ex-spouses–and learn how to successfully recognize and manage these challenges.
“The Secrets to Stepfamily Success will certainly lead to positive change in step and blended family members’ lives. Not only is it rich with valuable tools, learnable skills, and resources to enable a successful remarriage, but it is also inspirational as it calls everyone on the remarriage journey— whether you are considering remarriage or already experiencing step or blended family living—to action; i.e., to explore his or her own self-growth development. For those who want a lasting and happy remarried life, this book is a must-read.
“Congratulations and thank you for helping to improve the lives of millions of remarried people who are raising step and blended families!”
Paula Bisacre, CEO, Remarriage LLC, Publisher, reMarriageMagazine.com; Creator, “On Remarriage” column, The Washington Times
Tell us something about yourself.
I am the author of The Healing Power of Grief: The Journey Through Loss to Life and Laughter, The Healing Power of Love: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love, The Newly Divorced Book of Protocol: How to Be Civil When You Hate Their Guts, and RETRO Chic: A Guide to Fabulous Vintage and Designer Resale Shopping in North America & Online. My articles have appeared in local and national magazines, and she is a retired newspaper columnist whose column has been syndicated in English and Spanish language newspapers worldwide.
I am a step and biological mother and widow. I have been a professional writer for over 35 years.
What inspired you to write this book?
First, I am a stepmother and knowledgeable from experience … and research. 20+ million step and blended families exist in the U.S. and 2,100 new ones form every day! Yet, sadly, there is a real void in knowledgeable literature on creating a healthy stepfamily, one that fills the needs of co-parents and children. The sad reality is that stepfamily divorce is much higher than biological family divorce and happens faster. Yet, who is caring the the children of these families who will one day have children of their own without an inkling of what healthy family life is all about.
Also current stepfamily literature does not cover one vitally important aspect of divorce and remarriage for adults and children. And that is the necessity to mourn previous loss and go into a stepfamily situation knowing that there are 60 basic differences between biological and stepfamillies. Stepfamily aren’t better or worse, they are different. And knowing this differences encourages a healthy, long term marriage.
How did you choose the title?
The word “stepfamily” is in the title and “blended family” in the subtitle because the two are currently used interchangeably. Yet, a stepfamily is one in which only one co-parent is bringing a child or children into the new marriage, thus creating a stepmother or father. In a blended family, both co-parents bring a child or children into the remarriage, creating a stepmother and stepfather.
What obstacles did you encounter in getting this book published? How did you overcome them?
Because the ideas in my books are somewhat radical, I decided not to publish with a conventional publisher (as I did with my previous books) and self-published via Llumina Press.
How did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did you get started?
The first time I went to a public library as a child I knew I wanted to be a writer and have my books desplayed there. And they are! Also, I was a very sensitive child and found I could best express my feelings via the written word.
Do you have any writing rituals?
Yes …. panic as I near a deadline!
Did you learn anything from writing and publishing this book? What?
Publishing this book confirmed the difficult road to getting the word out, i.e., marketing and PR. This are tasks I work on Monday – Friday.
What types of books do you like to read? Who are your favorite authors?
I love all books, fiction and non-fiction. I enjoy a good mystery. My favorite author is the one I’m currently enjoying, whomever that is.
Are you working on your next book? What can you tell us about it?
What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
One must be absolutely committed to the subject they are writing about – even when not actually working at the computer, it goes on in your head. A good editor is vital to the quality of the finished product, whether self-publishing or going the traditional publisher route. You must also be committed, either way, to at least six months of intense marketing and PR on your part to know if your book will finally take off on it’s own.
Who is the perfect reader for your book?
Stepfamilies, stepmothers, stepfathers, step grandparents, step uncles and aunts, divorced mothers and fathers, stepchildren.
Where can readers learn more about you and your book?