My latest book is titled: Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On: The Power to Read People, Get what you Want, and Communicate without Pain. The book is designed to teach the reader how to recognize different personality types in less than 60 seconds in order to determine how to communicate most effectively with others. It’s actually a very easy read and most people can finish the book within 3 hours and begin implementing the information right away!
Tell us something about yourself.
I’m originally from Pensacola, Florida but currently live in Valdosta, GA. My husband is an Officer in the Air Force so we move regularly. I have had a Real Estate License for over 20 years and enjoyed quite a successful career in the business. I currently even train Realtors as I speak across North America. My first writing experience was with a children’s book series titled: Four Pals. They are fun adventures that teach kids how to recognize personality types and appreciate our differences. I was thrilled to win the Best Book of the Year Award from USA Book News with the first book in the series. When my latest book hit a National Best Seller list, that was exciting as well! I am also a mother of 4 kids that range in age from 22 years old to 2 years old.
What inspired you to write this book?
I believe it is important for people to understand the benefits of recognizing different personality types. I wanted to provide a “how to” that gave easy to use information which could be used to create win/win situations in every relationship in our lives. One of the best things about the book is that it’s not just for business or personal relationships. It’s not just for parenting. It’s for EVERY relationship! It also answers many questions people have about why they are the way they are. Often times, we think something is wrong with us because we aren’t like someone else. This book explains that it is okay to be the personality type that you area. Each type has some great to offer and we cover the strengths of each type in the book. We also touch on how others need you to say something in order for them to receive the message you are trying to send. So often, things get “lost in translation” because each personality type hears things differently and processes information differently. Often times, we think we are speaking so clearly that there is no possible way the other person won’t understand what we are saying and then we are so suprised when they receive the wrong message. One of my goals with this book is to make people mult-lingual in personality types and be able to easily speak each personality language!
How did you choose the title?
Many years ago I was driving on a street in Pensacola and there was a sign company with the words “Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On” written on the sign. As soon as I saw it, I said to myself “that is the perfect description of the type of pain we feel in relationships that have ineffective communication.” I immediately told myself that I would write a book one day and it would be titled that.
What obstacles did you encounter in getting this book published? How did you overcome them?
I actually was very blessed to meet my publisher at a Publicity Summit I attended in New York City. I invited him to lunch and by the time we finished our pizza he had agreed to publish my book. Many people recommended that I self publish, but I felt the vast knowledge my publisher had regarding publicity and marketing was well worth the investment and it paid off. We hit a National Best Seller list the very same month the book was released.
How did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did you get started?
I have never said to myself “I want to be a writer!” It is actually a bi-product of what I do as an Expert Personality Profiler. My first passion was creating the children’s books because kids understand that we are different and grasp the concepts quicker than most adults. Unfortunately – there were very few materials available for kids that teach them about our different personality types. I have always had the idea in my head to one day write a non-fiction book, but was intimidated by having the create chapters and lay everything out in a logical order. The kids books were much easier in that respect which was another great reason to start with them first. My motivation actually came from the very same Publicity Summit where I met my Publisher. I was meeting with tons of media to let them know what I do and try to get more exposure on radio, tv, etc. What I kept running into was the bigger television shows wouldn’t consider me an expert in my field no matter how long I have been profiling unless I had a non-fiction book. This, of course, gave me the motivation I needed to get started on the book. I started the book before I even got back home from the Summit and had completed the entire book in less than 30 days. Once I made myself start it was much easier than I thought to write the book. It contains the same information that I have taught as a professional speaker for the last 20 years. I just had to put it in book format. One of the unique things about the book is that I write the way I speak, so it’s as if I am sitting in the room with you having a conversation!
Did you learn anything from writing and publishing this book? What?
I learned much about the process and how many different people are involved. There are editors, graphics departments, marketers, printers, etc. You must stay on top of everything in order to make sure things go smoothly and deadlines are met. It was definitely a learning experience and made me glad that I didn’t choose self-publishing!
If you were doing it all over again, what would you do differently?
I would have found out what the publishing company was going to change and exactly how they needed my editor to submit graphics before paying my editor to do things that needed to be different or that the publisher couldn’t use. For example, I had this awesome font that the editor found for me. It was named kentucky fried chicken! We did the entire book in that font, only to have the publisher change it because they didn’t have the same font! I love how the book turned out though – especially the cover. I was also pleased the the publisher designed it the way that I wanted instead of cutting me out of the decision making process.
What types of books do you like to read? Who are your favorite authors? Why?
Honestly, I am much more of an audiobook person! I start reading and forget where I am because my mind wonders and I have to start over again! I also tend to jump from book to book and read multiple books at the same time. I tend to read books that are about my profession. I am always looking for new ways to present information or make particular points. I also love business books that show me how to be more efficient. The Four Hour Work Week, for example. I also enjoy reading John Maxwell’s books. My favorite Author would have to be me! Just kidding, well sort of!
Are you working on your next book? What can you tell us about it?
I am going to do the second series of the Four Pals kids books next. They were meant to be a series with 4 new books coming out each year. Unfortunately I had to put them on hold for a year due to moving and writing the non-fiction book. I have already written some of the stories and hope to begin the animation process in late summer.
At some point, I’d love to write a parenting and relationship book that relates to personalities but I don’t see this happening for at least another year.
What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
When it comes to writing, I would say to make a commitment to yourself to write a certain amount each day. Make an appointment with yourself and don’t cancel it! You don’t have to like the action of writing, you just have to like the result of a finished book!
As far as publishing, each person is different and it depends on what you want to do with your book. If you are not trying to hit a best-seller list or you have tons of experience and knowledge about self-publishing and marketing then that might be the best route for you. In my situation, it made far more sense to count on the experts instead of spending all the time and effort trying to learn what they already know.
Who is the perfect reader for your book?
Anyone who wants to reap the benefits of effective communication. This book honestly helps with all relationships in our lives. It’s for the business owner who wants to hire more effectively and keep his employees motivated. It’s for the employee who wants to get that big promotion. It’s for the spouse who wants to improve their marriage or the parent who desires to be the best mom or dad possible. It’s for the teacher who wants to know how to give every child in their class what they need to succeed. It’s for the young adult who wants to understand how to interact better with the people around them. The benefits of this book are endless. It has saved relationships and will help each person that reads it and applies the information.
Where can readers learn more about you and your book?
They can go to my website www.StopSquattingWithYourSpursOn.com. There they can check out the book, sign up to receive my free enewsletter that gives them tips and tricks for profiling, and also look at other great products that are available.