About a year ago my boyfriend and I started a website, www.SecretsI NeverTold.com. The concept was to simply give people a place to anonymously submit their secrets. Within days secrets started pouring in. Secrets ranged from confessions of sexual misconduct, criminal activity, and devious revenge to embarrassing moments and personal thoughts. Due to the success of the site, we have recently self-published a book, Secrets I Never Told: The Book.
Tell us something about yourself.
I am a 26 year old small town girl from middle of nowhere Iowa. I’m a chemist by day and a website moderator, web designer, publicist, advertising agent, and author by night.
What inspired you start the website?
The website, www.SecretsINeverTold. com, was founded in February 2010 while my boyfriend and I were watching the final episode of HBO’s The Sopranos. In a scene, Paulie Gualatieri said to his boss, Tony Soprano, “Tony, I never told this to another living soul, but…”. His boss heard his secret and made a joke about it. This scene prompted the friends to begin sharing their secrets with each other. It was that afternoon that Secrets I Never Told, a website where anyone can anonymously share secrets no matter how sad, funny, or dark– was born.
What are some of your favorite secrets you’ve ever received?
I don’t think I could pick one favorite, but there are certain secrets that always stand out in my mind.
Saddest- Female from West Virginia: “I change the sheets on my daughters bed every single week. I give her fresh pillows, fresh sheets, and a fresh blanket. She died in 2007. She was my only child. Doing that makes me feel like a mother again.”
Craziest- Male from Colorado: “I caught my wife going though my text messages. Doesn’t she realize I delete the incriminating ones right away? I guess not, if she did she would know about my boyfriend.”
Funniest- Female from Unknown: “I like the way my pee smells after I drink coffee”
What obstacles did you encounter in getting this book published? How did you overcome them?
We decided to self publish. Our main obstacle was that we knew nothing, literally, about how to write or publish a book. Our solution: Research. We spent months researching online and talking to anyone and everyone we could find who might know a little something about publishing.
What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
It’s a lot of hard work, but the moment you hold YOUR book, that YOU wrote, in your hands…it’s worth all the time and energy spent.
Who is the perfect reader for your book?
For many of us, life is a series of trials and errors. We all make mistakes. We all have flaws. We all have secrets. We all enjoy reading the secrets of other people. Some people enjoy reading secrets because it lets them know that they are not alone. Some like to know that there are others that are “more f’ed up than me”. Others read secrets for the sheer entertainment of reading what others have done, have thought, or are planning to do. Whatever your reason, remember that these secrets are from parents, teachers, children, police officers, soldiers, students, husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. In a word, these secrets come from “us”. That’s what makes secrets so interesting. It unveils what a person really does when nobody is looking and what we really think but are afraid to say out loud. These are the raw and uncut feelings, emotions, and thoughts of everyday people just like you and me.
Where can readers learn more about you and your book?