Lisa Steadman – Author Interview

What is your most recent book? Tell us a bit about it.

If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right is a sequel to my previous best seller, It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown, which I wrote after enduring a heart wrenching breakup five years ago. In my new book, I share all the things someone should have told you when you were in high school to save you from years of wasted time crying over the wrong guy and feeling desperate to find the right one. I also show you why it’s a good thing Mr. Wrong is gone, and what you have to look forward to now. Life, love, opportunities.

My book includes:

– exercises and quizzes to assist the reader in learning from her past and getting clear about her life, leading up to the million dollar question: “Is he Mr. Next or Mr. Right?”
– common pitfalls women fall prey to in relationships
– how to get unstuck, types of men to steer clear of
– practical advice for how to date

Chapters include:

– Fairytales Do Come True (And Other Lies Your Mother Told You)
– The Million-Dollar Question
– Why You’re Really Still Single
– Don’t Be That Girl: Dating Personas That Can Sabotage Your Success
– Men Behaving Badly: Dating Jerks to Steer Clear Of
– and many more

Tell us something about yourself.

I’m an internationally acclaimed relationship journalist, relationship coach, best-selling author, sought-after speaker, and CEO of Woohoo, Inc., dedicated to helping women move away from the pain of the past and into their brilliant futures. Author of If He’s Not the One, Who Is?, It’s a BreakUp Not a Breakdown, and It’s a Breakup Not a Breakdown Workbook, I regularly contribute relationship advice to media outlets such as, Yahoo!,, the Huffington Post. My TV appearances include The Today Show, The Tyra Banks Show, Playboy Radio, and New Zealand’s Good Morning.

What inspired you to write this book?

I wanted to show single women how to walk away from past relationship pain and dating drama and step into possibility, armed with valuable tools for manifesting Mr. Right.

How did you publish this book? Why did you decide on that publisher?

This is my third traditionally published book. I love my publisher!

How did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did you get started?

I’ve always been telling or writing stories. It’s just part of who I am. I’ve been a professional writer for over 15 years, and a published author for 3 years.

What do you believe is the hardest part of writing?

Feeling margininally terrified every time I stare at a blank screen. Feeling the fear and writing anyway.

How do you do research for your books?

I coach a lot of single women, and I host FREE calls for single women, plus I’m always talking to single women on Facebook and Twitter. So I have a great audience who gives me tremendous feedback.

Did you learn anything from writing this book? What?

The key to finding love is NOT about morphing yourself into some version of Ms. Right to make some guy happy. The key is BELIEVING you deserve to have love just as you are, and then moving through the world with that knowledge and self love. Men LOVE that!

What are you reading now?

I just finished The Science of Getting Rich. I’m about to pick up The Big Leap, followed by Elizabeth Gilbert’s Committed.

What types of books do you like to read? Who are your favorite authors?

My very first favorite author was Sidney Sheldon. I read every one of his books, starting when I was 12. I even wrote him a fan letter in high school. And he wrote back! I have it framed and shared it with him at an event he was speaking at. He seemed so tickled that I had written and saved his response. And he loved to hear that I was a professional writer.

Now I love nonfiction. Eat, Pray, Love rocked my world. So did Stephen King’s On Writing. And everything ever written by David Sedaris.


I love personal experience stories. People who share their foibles, joys, pain, and are absolutely clever in the way they communicate.

Are you working on your next book? What can you tell us about it?

I’m actually working on an ebook “Manifesting Mr. Right.” My husband and I just bought an iPad because we want to develop a version of the new book for the iPad. Publishing is entering a new frontier!

What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?

Writers block is a luxury you can’t afford to have. Just sit down, feel the fear, and go for it! Be willing to tell your story and FINISH. A writer is one who finishes. Also, I write a blog on the Business of Books that your audience may enjoy:

What are you doing to promote your latest book?

What’s great about publishing right now is you have the power to promote your book without ever leaving your house. So while I did a brief media tour in New York in January, I write articles, do videos, promote on social media, partner with fellow authors and affiliates to share my message. I’ve also partnered with Nuance, the makers of the voice software I use to write my book. They’re sponsoring a live event I’m speaking at in Boston in May. I’m also speaking at an event in New York in May on the business of books. I’m the queen of creating opportunities. It’s fun!

Where can readers learn more about you and your book?

Feel free to visit my website When you sign up on my website, you can get free chapters from 2 of my 3 books: It’s A Breakup, Not A Breakdown: Workbook and If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.