Judy Lokits – Bouquets from My Beloved

What is your most recent book?

Bouquets from My Beloved is my first published book. It speaks of the passionate and fulfilling love of God for us, His Creation. It also speaks to us as women who may be widowed, divorced, or otherwise single and are longing desperately for a companion who makes us uniquely special to Him, and provides for and protects us. The book helps us to recognize and receive His special and emotionally satisfying “bouquets” every day in our life.

Tell us about yourself.

Born in Denver, married young and barely surviving a divorce 16 years later, my greatest desire was to find Prince Charming and live happily ever after. With 2 preteen children, I moved to San Diego, and 3 years later thought I had found him. My second husband and I were married for 20 years, years that were constantly crippled by severe financial problems, and then his struggle with diabetes. When he died in 1997, I was almost 60 and still desperately longing for a husband who could fill my needs emotionally, and give me some sense of security. My strong Christian faith was just not enough.

In 2000 I moved to south Florida to primarily be near a man whom I had met and fallen in love with the previous year. Our relationship was on and off during the next 7 years, and then ended abruptly.

After my retirement from insurance sales, I had time to pursue my artistic interests that have included being an exhibiting watercolor artist, actress, director, teacher, speaker and writer.

My son, Scott and his family live in Phoenix, and my daughter, Tanya and her family live in San Diego. I love traveling to and with them, giving me time with my 3 grandchildren.

What inspired you to write this book?

Alone again at 65 years old, it was the failure of my third love relationship, and all my plans and dreams for my life that caused me to cry out in agony to God to help me.

It was during the following months that He did just that. My journal collected His answers to me as I poured out my heart and soul to Him. As I began to understand, the pain left, and I found myself compelled to share that with other women all around me who were looking for the same thing.

I started a very successful group at my church for widows and divorced women using the notes in my journal. These then became this book which has since been published.

How did you chose the title?

A bouquet given by a lover is a distinctly personal, non-verbal expression of love. A beautiful feather in my path, a shady parking place in a completely full parking lot in the brutal summer Florida heat, a sense of His presence everywhere I go……all these are the bouquets I anticipate and receive from the Lord constantly. It describes my desire for the reader to also find those bouquets from her Beloved.

What did you learn from writing and publishing this book?

When I became convinced that I should have the journal writings published, I had no idea how to do that. Months of research followed including asking advice from others who had been down that path. While researching Christian publishing companies, I sent the manuscript to two of them, who immediately accepted it…….for a price, of course. Again, I prayed and asked advice, finally choosing the one which gave me a package deal, since I had no knowledge or the means to do any of it myself.

I have been happy with how Tate Publishing Co. has fulfilled their side of the contract, enjoying the whole process of turning my printed pages into an artistic expression of my heart and God’s truths. What I didn’t foresee was the amount of work it would take on my part to market the book.

My greatest challenge is getting this 71 year old to understand the mysteries of the computer and the secrets of the internet……..very necessary to the process of getting my name and the book out there. But I forge on faithfully, working at it several days a week.

What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?

About writing, I believe to really make an impact, you must know your subject personally and write from your heart……even fiction. As in the theatre, you cannot fool the audience, if you don’t know who you are.

About publishing, I urge you to do your homework. Look at all the different options, read books about publishing, and ask for advice from those who’ve published.

However, do not be discouraged and give up. I did that once before, and I am very sorry I let the opportunity slip between my hands.

Lastly, marketing your book may be as demanding as writing it. Don’t omit this necessary part of the process.

Are you working on your next book?

Of course! Bouquets from My Beloved just primed the pump. My next book will continue to lead others into the deeper places and mysteries of the Lord, this time using the beautiful love poem from the Bible of Song of Solomon to entice us into that Divine Romance with our God.

Who is the perfect reader for your book?

As you can see I’m an incurable romantic, always tapping into the Author of love. And because I entered this more intimate relationship myself, as a result of my widowed status and the disappointments in my love life, I believe that single women, especially widows and divorcees, will especially profit from reading the book, although all of my married friends also loved it. I have even had some men read it who really liked the book and its lessons although they are written in a distinctly feminine style to a feminine audience.

Where can readers learn more about your book?

My web site is: www.bouquetsfrommybeloved.tateauthor.com
My blog, Cherished, is: www.anosegay.blogspot.com
Check me out on Facebook and Goodreads under my name
Bouquets from My Beloved is available online at Tate Publishing Co., Amazon, and Barnes and Noble. It is also available as an ebook.
Enjoy and feel loved!


  1. Adele says

    I really enjoyed your interview. I think the book is a blessing to all, anyone who is in need of true love from a significant other, or any one who is unfulfilled and needs to be really loved and that is everyone. I enjoyed this as a writer who wants to self publish my own book also. Lots to learn and to experience in regards to publishing, and becoming a best seller.
    Judy good article, this is uplifting, and so are you.