Gabriella Hartwell – You Find Your Soul Mate When You Let Go of Searching

What is your most recent book? Tell us a bit about it.

You Find Your Soul Mate When You Let Go of Searching. This book will help people to get in touch with the love inside of them, to be clear as to who they are, what they choose to experience, what relationship means to them. In order to attract and choose to be in relationship with another, it is first necessary to get to know fully who you are because in that space, you are more clearly able to consciously choose what energy complements you. This book will help you to understand why it is so important to let go of the “search,” and to allow yourself to be in the flow of being to receive what you most desire.

Tell us something about yourself.

I love stories, I love characters. Ever since I was young, I would get lost within the pages of books staying up until 2am to find out what happened next in the lives of the people inside. It was the inside that intrigued me, what was inside I felt guided us and helped us guide others through life. I wanted to feel with others, I wanted others to feel with me. Hence my desire to help people, to share in the journeys with them and to share mine with them was born. I enjoyed and still do enjoy observing people as well as myself to come to clarity, which I find offers insight in how to live life to the fullest in all ways.

What inspired you to write this book?

Two things: my mother and my inner knowing of the existence and connection with my twin flame. I used to watch my single mother go from relationship to relationship where she was disrespected, in my opinion, and not happy. There was this inner nudging and awareness that what I was witnessing was not how “sacred relationship” is meant to be like. However, all of our experiences/relationships help us to get to where our souls intend to be so there is nothing to regret, there are no mistakes. Watching her was motivating and inspiring me to know more and share more in the relationship area, to give the insight that was flowing through me to as many people as possible. Ever since I was young, I had an awareness of the energy of my twin flame and an inner knowing that I would recognize him when I meet him. All of my relationships and experiences have shown me the process of relationships for growth and healing, which I share in this book and my second one that I am writing, so that we can rise higher and higher in unconditional love for ourselves as well as others.

How did you choose the title?

(laugh) You know how people say that they receive inspiration in the shower? I don’t know if there is something within the cleansing properties of water however this is when I got the insight for the title of my book. I received the title very clearly and then started getting information coming through on the outline of the book. It was also something that I resonated with all along, that as we go along our natural course of living and being, we attract our soul mates and our twin flame to us to share in relationship.

What made you decide to self publish instead of going with a publishing company for this book?

I trust my intuition in what comes through. When I was getting ready to publish the book, I was feeling that it needed to come out right away and the easiest as well as the fastest and most financially productive way to do it was to self publish.

How did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did you get started?

I had always been in love with words, which is one reason why I enjoyed reading. Since I would read so much, I was inspired to create on my own. My first language so to speak was poetry. This started in 4th grade with rhyming poems and then progressed into more detailed stream of consciousness pieces. I went to school for English because somewhere inside, just like I knew that I would meet a man that I would recognize as my “true love,” I knew that I was being called to communicates messages through words.

Do you have any writing rituals?

I don’t have any specific rituals, though when I do sit down and write, I let whatever comes through to come through without my mind getting involved. Many times I find that the writing starts coming through in my conscious awareness organizing itself within my mind before my fingers touch the keyboard. Then I get a nudge to sit down and create as the flow brings the messages into creation.

Did you learn anything from writing and publishing this book? What?

I learned that it is a process, to have patience along the journey knowing that all the steps will unfold in the perfect order as well as in the perfect time. Whenever frustration comes through, follow your intuition. For example, there would be times when I was not motivated to sit in front of the computer to write or use pen to paper, so I got myself a recorder and would speak what came through, then type it later into the computer. I wrote most of the book this way. It helps to be open to alternative ways of creating.

If you were doing it all over again, what would you do differently?

Honestly, nothing. I believe that I did everything to the best of my ability and learned so much in the process.

What types of books do you like to read? Who are your favorite authors? Why?

I like books that bring me right into the lives, the emotions, the internal goings on within the characters. I like books that add to my perception of my own life experience and the experience of life in general, books that help me to feel more alive. I enjoy self help books, books on twin flames and soul mates yet I also enjoy reading stories of showing the metaphysical or introspective insights on life actually being implemented within characters lives. Some authors I like are Paulo Coelho, Don Miguel Ruiz, Neale Donald Walsch, Terry Goodkind.

Are you working on your next book? What can you tell us about it?

I am writing my second book and I have many eager readers awaiting its release. I am hoping for it to be fully available by the end of this year, 2011. The title is “Rising Up the Ladder of Love: From Soul Mates to Twin Flame,” and it will go in much detail on so many aspects within relationships. One of the major focuses is going to be on the “ladder of love,” the process of relationships so that people can understand why we have relationships. From my research on books within my area of expertise (twin flames and soul mates), I have found that there needs to be a lot of clarity to the concept of both soul mates and twin flames. Relationships are not meant to be confusing or unhappy, but in order to fully release such patterns, emotions, beliefs, we need to understand why we have relationships in so much more detail. THIS book will be a light within perceived darkness.

What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?

I can’t stress enough how important it is to follow your intuition, to trust in the flow of being in the present moment and allowing each step to unfold as it will. There is no need to rush anything for the book will be written and published in the perfect time that it is meant to as well as the perfect way. If you are feeling guided to bring forth messages in the form of a book, know that the universe is in support of assisting you with the creation.

Is there something specific that you would like to share regarding relationships that people should know?

Think about this: if you got in the car but you didn’t know where you wanted to go, would you go anywhere or would you be driving around aimlessly feeling lost? The more clear that you can be on who you are, what your desires are, what relationship means to you, the more you will know what you are looking for in a partner and in life. This way, you are able to choose someone that complements you, someone that is in alignment with your energy, your essence. Your relationship will then feel like an ease of being as you are being who you are and sharing that being with each other. Relationship and ease, did you ever think you would see these two words in combination with each other? Believe me, it is possible.

Who is the perfect reader for your book?

Those that want to have a deep loving and respectful relationship for themselves and others. I feel that there is really no age restriction on this. The more we learn about relationships at a younger age, the less pain we can create in our experience. This book was written with the intention of anyone picking it up and being able to understand in more depth about relationships so that the “search” is released knowing that love starts within.

Where can readers learn more about you and your book?

The book is available at (in book form and Kindle), and