My most recent book is The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to Online Dating: And She Lived Happily Ever After. It’s a guide book that’s based on my personal experiences.
Tell us something about yourself.
I am originally from New York City and currently live on the North Shore of Boston. I was an advertising major in the School of Journalism at Boston University in the 1960s. I became a prolific freelance writer in the mid-1980s after starting an adult education program and coming up with subjects that I wanted to learn about, including “How To Become A Freelance Writer.” My feature stories and weekly columns have appeared in newspapers and magazines throughout the country.
What inspired you to write this book?
As I made my way through the online dating jungle, I realized that there was a real learning curve and that everyone made mistakes – usually the same mistakes. I decided that I wanted to share my knowledge with other (intelligent) women. It was also great “therapy” to take notes (after the date was over). On the worst of dates, I could sit across from the guy and think to myself, “Ah, this will be great for Chapter 4.”
How did you choose the title?
Titles are often the hardest thing to come up with. In this case, I wanted to convey the message that it was a guide book, a how-to (vs. someone’s musings) and that it definitely had a positive message and a happy ending.
What obstacles did you encounter in getting this book published? How did you overcome them?
I knew right from the start that I wanted to self-publish the book, and I had self-published before, so I knew the “ropes.” Of course, things take longer than one expects, and I had hired a publicist to do bookings for me, so I was under an imposed deadline in terms of making sure that the books got to the publicist.
Did you learn anything from writing and publishing this book? What?
I learned that this is the type of book that friends pass around, so when I’d do a workshop to promote the book and women would show up together, one of them would always say, “Don’t worry, I’ll give it to you after I’m finished with it.”
Are you working on your next book? What can you tell us about it?
I’m always thinking of writing another book. Men have asked me to write The Intelligent Man’s Guide… I’d also like to do a comprehensive, step-by-step guide to how to write the perfect online profile.
What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
Don’t be afraid to self-publish.
Who is the perfect reader for your book?
The perfect reader for my book is someone who’s doing online dating, but not getting the results she wants; used to do online dating, but gave up in frustration; has always wanted to do online dating, but doesn’t know where or how to begin. Interestingly, men who read the book say it’s great for them because it’s like reading the opposing side’s Playbook.
Where can readers learn more about you and your book?