Bonnie Gabriel, M.A. – The Fine Art of Erotic Talk

What is your most recent book? Tell us a bit about it.

The newly revised and updated print and e-book version of The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk: How To Entice, Excite, And Enchant Your Lover With Words
(Random House)

Tell us something about yourself.

I’m from Northern N.J., now live in San Francisco. I’ve been writing professionally for 18 years. Besides books and articles on relationships, communication, psychology, I’m also a theatre, film and cabaret critic. (I hold degrees in theatre, counseling and psychology from NYU.)

What inspired you to write this book?

A colleague asked me to give a seminar at a conference on sexuality. I noticed that she had already scheduled workshops the included the senses of sight, touch, smell (sensual perfumes), taste (sensual foods), but had not included the sense of sound. So I gave a workshop on The Art of Erotic Talk. Even though there were 4 other workshops in the same time period, mine was filled to capacity, with a group who had to be turned away due to lack of space. I realized this was a hot topic and decided to write a book about it.

How did you choose the title?

Since many people think of “talking dirty” when they hear the words “erotic talk,” I wanted to create a title that implied there could be more to sensual communication that included finesse, subtlety and artistry.

What obstacles did you encounter in getting this book published? How did you overcome them?

I was very fortunate. I had been a publicist for authors and speakers in the early 90’s. One of my clients had published a best-selling book through a major agent. She recommended me to her agent, who accepted my book proposal. The agent, Sandra Dijkstra, sold my book to Bantam, who was later taken over by Random House.

How did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did you get started?

My high school and college instructors told me I had a flair for writing. In college I wrote song lyrics, comedy routines and musical parodies. When I worked as a publicist, I had the opportunity to develop my skills writing promotional copy. And as a theatre and film reviewer for 2 radio stations and 3 magazines, I learned how to write succinct, compelling reviews.

Do you have any writing rituals?

I usually start by brain storming and not censoring my thoughts or how I express them. Then I go back and carefully edit and revise.

Who is the perfect reader for your book?

People who want to bring or rekindle passion and intimacy in their relationships as well as those who want to find ways to attract a new partner. Or, as I put it on my Words for Lovers website: “This book is for all those who wish to explore new ways to give voice to the full spectrum of their experience as a lover – in body, mind, heart and spirit.”

Where can readers learn more about you and your book?

My Words for Lovers website and blog at
They can also find the book in print and Kindle at
On my website, they can also access information on my self-published e-book, Daily Verbal Aphrodisiac Sensual Suggestions & Romantic Enticements and receive a free copy of my 3-manual Verbal Charisma How to Attract a Lover and Pave the Way to a Passionate Connection.