Ace & Bethany McKay – The Marriage Playbook

What is your most recent book? Tell us a bit about it.

Our most recent release is a couples resource called The Marriage Playbook. The concept in this book is to use sports to teach couples how they can work as a team. On the same way that a team doesn’t go on the field without a plan in place for how they are going to win, we have to have a plan in place for how we are going to win in our marriage.

Tell us something about yourself.

I grew up in the Birmingham, AL area and have been doing radio for the last 18 years. Almost 6 years ago, I began writing for a local newspaper in Huntsville, AL. I was an okay writer but in working on a weekly column about something I love like music, it began to shape the kind of writer I am today. I’m always looking for ways to grow and be creative in those writings whether its on music, marriage or life.

What inspired you to write this book?

My wife and I wrote The Marriage Playbook after going through a “slump season” of our own. My wife battles depression and my job was pretty demanding around year 7 of our marriage. You couple that with a few kids at home and you have a recipe for a pretty nasty stew in our marriage. I made some bad choices which led to 2 affairs taking us down the divorce road.

When we couldn’t agree on anything, we could still sit down and watch football together. One given Saturday, the commentator said about the losing team that day, “If the quarterback would just communicate better with his receivers, they would be a better team.” That was a spark to a fire that had died all the way out but the beginning of our reconciliation. We begin to look for ways to tell our story across the country and the sports terms and analogies birthed from those speaking engagements which began The Marriage Playbook.

How did you choose the title?

We chose this title because marriage needs a playbook in order to survive. If you fail to plan, then we plan to fail. We believe that just like a team has plays that can help them score and win, we need plays that setup our marriage to win.

What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
For any new writer, I think the best advise I can give them is that if you have writers you admire that are great, you should emulate their style of writing until you craft a style of your own. It also helps to have a writing mentor that has been doing it for a while. They can give you positive coaching into your columns and books that will help you grow.

Who is the perfect reader for your book?

The perfect reader for this book is couples who need a spark in their marriage. We don’t always start relationships for the right reasons or on the best foot. We don’t have perfect relationships because contentment or laziness takes over. In order to get that spark back, we have to radically makeover the internal foundation of our marriage. In order to start that makeover, we need a spark. The Marriage Playbook was written with the husbands in mind and we use sports to speak their language so they can set the tone at home without needing a new vocabulary to communicate better with their wife.